Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Day 12/13 - How Your Home Can Make Your Children Brave

Well, it was inevitable that I'd miss a day, wasn't it? Grr. Pick myself up and brush myself off and try again.

Today I want to talk to you about how your home can make your family brave. We have a number of somewhat anxious people in our little family. (Basically, everyone but the father of the family tends to get unduly anxious at times. He is our steady rock!) I've been anxious practically forever, and the girls both get nervous about new, unfamiliar things. Super adventurous we are not.

But that being said, every member of our family takes risks. I can't speak for the girls, but I can tell you one of the main reasons (other that God's grace!) that I'm able to do that.

Our home for me is a calm place. It's a steady place. Knowing what to predict at home makes it easier for me to face the unpredictable. But why am I telling you this? Chances are you wouldn't lump yourself in the anxious category. (Although chances are equally high that you would.)

Understanding this is all part of understanding why a domestic monastery matters. 



You can't control what happens outside the walls of your home, and you can't completely control what happens even within the walls of your home - but you can have more say within than without.

This doesn't mean that your home needs to be perfect. No one is perfect, and we all make mistakes. But your efforts to make your home a sort of sanctuary - a place that is restful, familiar, comfortable - matters. Allowing your home to be a place where prayer can happen helps, too! Basically, a domestic monastery should be a place where we can know that we are loved and cherished; a place where we can know that we are not alone. 

This kind of atmosphere won't cure anyone of fears - but it will make those fears a heck of a lot easier to face!

(This always makes me think of that kernel of wisdom from The Princess Diaries, "Courage isn't the absence of fear, but the judgement that something else is more important.")

Your challenge for today - tell your children that you love them. Tell your spouse that you love them. Remind them that God loves them, and that their patron saints and guardian angel loves them. In that little (yet great!) way you can build up their confidence and make it easier for them to face whatever they need to face once they step outside your home.


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